In the same vein, friendship style

A friend and I have been talking about her signing up for Facebook, which is (unfortunately) a huge part of my life. I spend far too much time on there, but I love that I actually talk to people that I went to high school with. They have kids, I have kids, we bond. I didn't find the same closeness with Myspace. I'm actually in the process of phasing out myspace if I can get a few stubborn friends to switch, but that's a whole other post.

Anyhow, so when said friend joined Myspace, a girl we knew friend-requested her, and she declined. I didn't think much of it, but when we discussed her signing up for Facebook I made the offhanded remark that I knew she was picky in accepting friend requests people from high school. To this she replied that she wasn't except for this one girl. I then realized she was continuing to harbor a grudge against this girl for something that happened in high school. Now, I'm sure that what happened to them was traumatic to a teenager, but would you hold a grudge against someone for something that happened 11 years ago?

The reason I bring up this story, it to say that I am terrible at holding grudges. I value friendships too much to let much get in the way. It also happens that I tend to get taken advantage of, but I've always been this way. My best friend and I had a falling out that happened around the time of my wedding, and we didn't talk for over a year and it was miserable for me. I still thought about her all the time, dreamed about her, and finally I crawled back to her (even though I can say with full conviction that I had nothing to do with what happened). I can't say we're anywhere near the friends that we used to be, but I also can't let her go. I'm truly glad that we've made some effort to reconcile.

What about you? Do you harbor old grudges? Do you get trampled as a friend?