- when she was getting married, I helped her with everything. Whenever she didn't want to do something that needed to be done in order to move forward with the wedding planning, I went over and started it for her so it would be easier for her to handle. However, when I was getting married she never helped and was never there for me.
- when it was getting close to my wedding and I was stressed already she stopped answering the phone. She stopped calling me back. I would call her 30 times in a week and she would refuse to take my calls.
- She still hasn't paid me back for my bachelorette party which she said she would split with me. She also was a sullen pain in the ass during the grand majority of it.
- She decided to take a "trial separation" from her husband the week I got back from my honeymoon. Again, she refused to talk to me and refused to let me be there for her, instead leaning on a "close friend" from that goddamn game.
- She told her husband that no one cared about her, and that the only person that cared enough to call was my ex-fiance, which is a freaking lie because I was the one who told him about what was going on (only loosely, because it wasn't my place to tell him the details) and I had left messages, texts and MySpace messages for her to no avail.
- She is consistantly not there for me, refuses to let me be there for her, and martyrs herself whenever possible.
- She has lied directly to me about the nature of certain "friendships"
So this has been a one-sided friendship for a very long time. And, as I told her the last time I messaged her, I'm going to stop ramming my friendship down her throat. If she doesn't want it, I'm not going to force her. The thing is, before the wedding I really really needed her and she wasn't there for me. Now, I don't need her so much. So even though I do want desperately to be her friend, I think our friendship is dead. She's done this before. Last time she didn't talk to me for over 6 months, then called me to see if I would be her maid of honor. This time I need to remind myself why we aren't together so I can make an informed decision on whether to be her friend again.
You know, I'm a damn good friend. I try to be non-judgemental, I only give advise if requested, if I give advise, requested or not, I rarely get upset if it's not followed because I recognise that your life is not mine. I'm always there for my friends, to the point of getting calls in the middle of the night when they need me to going over after work when I feel like crap just to be there. I hang out at houses with cats (even though I'm severely allergic) to be with them, I clean their house if they need it and don't want to do it. I do anything. But I won't force it anymore. I have enough friends. Friends who are there for me too. And I think I can only do this again if she decides to make our friendship a two-way street, and I don't know if she can be unselfish enough for that.
